Although I haven't met him, I like your friend. Smart guy, with lots of sage advice!
And agree with Wonka. You have prayed thru this, correct? Well, I don't think it's a coincidence that these two pieces of advice so neatly coincided over the past 48 hours. "There is," indeed, "wisdom in many counselors," as the Good Book says.
A boundary without enforcement is no boundary at all. You sound (to me, anyway) in a good place to "call the question," so to speak. I know my MLC friends will disagree -- strongly -- with me here, but I just don't see the valor in taking the one, two, even three years (or longer) stances. If that's what YOU choose to do, great, but you sound to me like you're detached, heady and content enough to play your ultimate card in this noble fight for your marriage.
