Well, I got a good night of sleep, and everything still looks the same to me this morning.
There isn't anything I can do about my mother until next week when she sees the oncologist. I am prepared to do whatever she needs help with to get through this.
I had been following the LRT. No calls, no texts, busy with GAL and 180s, IC. My confusion stems from the fact that we had very few R talks immediately following the bomb. At the time, I agreed that we were both unhappy and that if he wasn't willing to go to MC or work on M then there was nothing I could do. I have never told him that I don't want to get a D, or that I have now seen that I made a lot of mistakes and am sorry for my part in our failing and SSM. So it seems to me that letting him go further or asking him to leave is just further agreeing that there is no hope. I wanted to tell him how I felt, but was trying to follow LRT of no R talks.
He doesn't know about my mother yet, I'm not sure if his mother will tell him when he goes to see her this weekend. I just don't know what to do.
M 45 H 44 no kids-one great dog M 15 yr in Oct T 18 yr Bomb 6/10 "I can't be your husband any more"