Ok, since I am out of the house now and moving on, I have a couple of questions about how to handle different situations that I get in with W.
She called me the first night that I had the kids and asked how things were going. I said fine, the kids had fun. She wanted to talk to them about their first day of school and I said ok, but D is already in bed. W says, yeah, she didn't sleep much last night. I don't know if she was nervous about school or about staying over at your house or what (D was fine at my house). She also said that she was very tired too and that she hadn't slept hardly at all the previous night.
I didn't say much, but should I have talked with her about it, asking why and trying to delve in like I cared? When she mentioned being stressed out a while back, I asked her why she was so stressed and she just shot back an angry "Isn't it obvious?" I'm not exactly sure how to handle this. My gut tells me that maybe I should have engaged her in a conversation, but I am always wrong about these things, so.....
On another note, I have the kids this weekend and am picking them up from school today. We are taking a trip to grandma's for a couple of days and W didn't give me much in the way of clothes for the kids (says I will get more later) so she sends me this email:
"I will pack a suitcase for the kids and have their blankies, DS, I-pod, etc in the front foyer. I told them they could come and get the stuff after school tomorrow. I am furloughed Friday and am going to a work picnic sometime in the afternoon. I may not be home at that time."
Being a good DBer, I didn't respond right away. Then I forgot about it and didn't respond at all. Does this kind of note require any sort of reply?
We haven't talked much since I left, but it has only been a week and I haven't initiated any conversations and have no intention to at this point. Do I just wait for her to start asking about the R or what? I don't know what to expect. I think I am supposed to treat her just like any other friend now, right?
I'm confused as to what to expect next and how to handle her when we do talk.
