Don't have much time so I'll have to make this short.
Talked to my L on Wed. To expedite things, she said she wanted to file a motion of temporary custody to get W out of the house and kids placed with me. She had another appt. and told me to call her when I got home and give her some info that she needed and I would have to come in at 6:30 a.m. the next day to sign it so she could file it. By the time I got home, I talked myself out of it. She called me back to tell me to reconsider and said my W's L would tell her to do the same thing. Still I said no.
I guess I just don't have it in me.
W had her appt. yesterday. After the kids were in bed last night, she asked me to come outside with her. She said she did not hire her L, just had the free consultation. She did not counter file, said she wanted to use the same L and work it out on our own. I said that was fine with me. She also said some things about the 40% child support that she is entitled to. My L also said that. She said she doesn't want that much. It wouldn't leave me with enough. We could sit down and work that out, too. She went on about school and sports, how we needed each other to get the kids there. If she could continue to live here and get out of debt as much as possible, etc.
I did the best I could. I agreed that we need to get divorced. The other questions she had, I said I would have to think about and we would discuss them later. She said it was fine, she didn't expect anything to be worked out in a matter of days. I didn't try to change her mind, the only thing I said in that respect was when she said she told her L that, "...we just grew apart, there were no affairs, no abuse, he's a great dad...." I told her to please stop, I didn't want or need to hear what she told her L. In the end, this is your choice, not mine or not ours.
I'm sure I should have been more aggressive and pushed her more. I agreed with everything.
I accepted the sitch. I will not try talking her out.
I'm at the point I should have been a long time ago. I thought I was there a few weeks ago.
Is the only thing left to do is be happy around her with all of this and keep the ball rolling? Slow down and let it sink in? Is this a turning point?
I know I still have hope. I think I have tempered it with reality.
