You are being to nice. Get a lawyer. The longer you continue this the more it will look to the courts that you are OK with it. Quit worrying about how she feels, she will use that to her advantage every chance she gets. Your wife is much better at this game than you, get real help because this is a real issue.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
