"So they only way on earth to influence other people is to talk about what they want and show them how to get it"
That says so much about what is talked about her.
Agree with them
Let them go - they can make their own choices.
Support/love/strength/confidence
Boundaries
this quote comes to mind:
"God himself dares not appear before a hungry man except in the form of bread."
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.