I'm beginning to think theres no such thing as MLC
That’s fine BUT how does that change what YOU need to do for YOU and YOUR kids?
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Should have done that before marriage and especially before creating kids.
Shoulda, coulda, woulda…..2G you can live in the past, stay stuck in the hurt or YOU can CHOOSE to stand up, let go of the anger, forgive and become a much better person. Not for your H – for YOU.
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I'm just done with the whole teenage behavior BS
F*cking A…yea…don’t put up with it! So DETACH!
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Enough is Enough already
Yes it is! Guess what though….who is controlling your life right now? Who is controlling how YOU feel? I suspect it is not YOU. It is YOUR H. He has a way of getting to you. He has pissed you the F off. So what are you going to do about it? Stay pissed…come here and bash the dude OR figure out what 2 G needs to do. Oh…by the way where is the list I asked for?
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Child support is one big joke
Yes it is…the entire system does not work. So what are YOU going to do? Once again…what happens the next time in life that something does not work the way you want it?
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My H pays 100% of the bills here until I begin to work after the baby is born. He works two jobs to make sure the girls and I are covered. So he's responsible in that aspect.
Well that’s nice….what are you going to do when he stops? Have you thought about that or are you just comfortable in the “this is f’d up” pit that you find yourself in? Me personally, I would want to get out of that pit. Figure out what I needed to do. Stand up for myself and my kids and go live my life.
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But the drinking and sudden hanging out all the time are frustrating.
Why? Oh…that’s right cause you keep looking at HIM and not at YOU. Yeah…I would be pissed if that is all I did. Especially pissed if I was a controlling person and realized that….
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I guess bc they're out of my control
But the good news is that you realize this….
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Which is my problem.
So now that you know what YOUR problem is (you know the one you can control) what ya gonna do about it?
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But it proves he's not much happier since moving out 6 months ago.
Does his happiness define YOURS? 2G
You keep focusing on your H. You still have not let go. Why is that? Why?
Insecure?
Angry?
Scared?
Who is 2G? Who does 2G want to be? What example does 2G want for her kids?
2G – this is all YOUR choice. Choose to let go, grow and be better or choose to stay angry – Your choice…it’s all YOU 2G…all you.
I know you want better for your kids. I know you can do better for your kids. I know you can do better for YOU. Time to put the big girl panties on and start doing the work!
It will be scary if you do it….no doubt
It will be frustrating if you do it…no doubt
In the end, you will not regret having done it. Why? Cause you will know YOU. The YOU that you define. The You that is just YOU.
Now where is that list?
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
