"I have been thinking about something you said the other day. I would like to understand it better. You said you feel oppressed around me. Why do you feel that way?"
Then buckle up, hopefully she will spew all over you. If she doesn't talk then I would say, "I want you to be happy. If I am doing something that is oppressing you then I would like to know." It's now her choice.
Pick a time when that's best. Energy levels high and it's in a neutral place - backyard or kitchen. If she is wound that tight you want her to let off steam, she needs to know you can handle her emotions and still lead. Make sense?
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
