I call this....testing the waters. IMO she wants to see how much damage she has done. Guilt is a funny thing...it comes in waves and just when you do not expect it.
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I believe, being very hypocritical about our R
Can you say.....looking for justification of her choices.
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"I am sorry for everything I have done"
More guilt
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I received a txt asking if I had ever called her friend Stan's secretary and asked if he was married.
Still...this is a very normal thing to do for someone who wants to CONTROL a sitch. What do YOU think she feels about this? Why would she feel upset about this? Do you think she is right to feel the way she feels about it?
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but just asked why, when I am starting to get my life together she keeps bringing these things up.
Think about this statement....why do YOU have to tell her that you are getting your life together? Know why? Cause you getting a life as a tactic to get her back. If you really were enjoying your life...well then you could have not even asked HER why she was asking. I would have moved the conversation on to the kids.
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but was asked not to do it again
Did she have a point Still. Was Still just trying to throw a little dart her way? Be respectful. No less - no more. Respect her as a woman and the mother of your kids.
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I told her she was up early and that she should go make our children a nice breakfast.
Why does she need YOU to tell HER what to do. Think about this for a second....how would you like if SHE told YOU want to do. Personally, I can see how she could get annoyed by this comment. Still you need to understand that she need to make and own all of HER choices. She will decide to do whatever the hell she wants to do. When I read this it brought back my own experiences and interactions with my wife. The interaction are done "as if" you guys are still a couple. Think about this.
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I am now just sitting back and waiting.
Other than "waiting"....what are you doing about YOUR issues. Are you spending any time in the mirror? Still this time is a gift. Your choice how you use it but I would suggest that you do not waste it.
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I see this seems to be following the pattern. I have thought for some time and am now quite sure that my W will roll this around in her head until her behavior is minimized and mine is to blame.
Every MLC case is different...there can be similarities but everyone is different.
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I dread the day she may crash though, and the fact that I can never know when or if it will come. This is the next thing I seem to have to drop away.
Why do you dread it? Afraid that if she crashes that she may still not come back? What will you do if she never comes back?
Yes you have no clue about the timeline so it is best to let go or as we say around here..."drop the rope".
Still - what do you hope to accomplish in the next 30 days?
Just asking...
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
