I wanted to also tell him I'm willing to reconcile, the conditions, but I'm not waiting around forever.
Noooooo!!!!!
Similar to my just-posted statement to you above (only multiplied by 10x), the concept's the same. These boundaries and conditions are best expressed when the wayward spouse ASKS what it will take to come back to the marriage (or, alt., says "I will do ANYTHING!!"). That is your moment of maximum leverage.
Otherwise, think about it: the dynamic is you saying "This is the only way I will reconcile!" and he's like "Who said anything about reconciling!!?"
