Puppys Short Version, All-Inclusive Advice for WAS

[Lost Rabbit]

Before I got DB I did it all WRONG for three months I pursued and all it got me was a WAS!

For a month I did it semi-WRONG, H visited me and saw me on his terms and I got NOWHERE!

Then he got a place of his own and I thought a OW and I GOT A LIFE! Went NC, lost weight and did everything for me, didnt speak to him barely apart from once ten daily (He called) Im fine! Definitely went for 2B even though it scared me silly it was the best thing ever IMHO!

Story Finale been back together six months now, very happy still a long way to go and not so messy as some R's as turns out no OW just a serious case of MLC/Depression..

Totally agree with last post, its hard for Newbies who are hurting and in shock to understand the confidence that those of us with experience have! Also the VETs/Experienced dont have all the time in the world to explain as otherwise our marriages will be in jeopardy again! But this is contraversial I know but a little bit more compassion wouldnt go amiss, if you cant spare the time dont try and spread yourselfs too thinly! I do agree a general post of why we do things the way we do would be time well spent and much kinder to direct newbies too than short shrift which they do get some times. I dont mean to be disrespectful just wanting the best for folks!