I don't know what state you are in, but in my state, the courts encourage 50-50 custody. They want the fathers in the children's lives (I have the opposite problem - my H is verbally and emotionally abusive but I am going to have to fight in court to get more custody!). I recommend talking to a lawyer and fast and see what they can do. They just may be able to compel the father to be in the children's lives. With legal or financial consequences if he doesn't obey.
