It could also be that he's trying to look good for an impending D. I'm sorry but my H has done a 180 too now that I'm talking to a L. Perhaps he wants to subdue you to not have such a big fight. I could be projecting, but I think that's what is going on with me and it would fit with your H too.
And mold. Yea BAD health problem. Please do it - whatever it takes. For the health of you and your S.
