Puppys Short Version, All-Inclusive Advice for WAS

[Mike.4545]

Allen,

This may end up in a long post so please bare with me. I'm posting this in both mine, and the "On-Inclusive" thread so others can weigh-in.

First of all, thank you for looking over my chart, commenting, and improving on it! It was merely an attempt to illustrate how I've put all the advice I've received together in my mind...and see if I was on track. My chart was a bit more general, as there are a lot of details I've already worked through in my situation that I was not seeking clarification or advice on...But with that being said:

I think we're onto an idea for a very helpful resource here on this forum. On this forum, there are a number of extremely knowledgeable and experienced veterans, and a substantially greater number of newcomers(a ratio of students>teachers)...and in the end, this creates a barrier for quick learning, and therefor, a delay in reaction time it takes people to apply the advice being given here to their situation.

Just like myself, so many newcomers find themselves at this site, lost, hurting, and desperate for advice on how to handle a situation that is life-altering and extremely difficult to navigate. They have to wade through an enormous amount of information, articles, books, advice, and seemingly conflicting methodologies on what route to take, and why. Like me, I think a lot of these people end up with a ton of information and ideas bouncing around in their minds without order...and have a difficult time organizing all those thoughts into a clear game-plan.

On the other side, all the veterans spend countless hours reading through new situations, re-giving the same advice, re-posting articles, and re-explaining why certain things should be done.

While invaluable, this whole system is very time consuming for everyone involved here! And as we know, time is of the essence in these situations.

With regard to situations of marital breakdown involving infidelity - Which I think is one of the most complex and difficult situations to work through...I propose we work collaboratively on a true "All-Inclusive" chart that we can get Stickied in this sub-forum.

Take our charts for example: We make sure it's thorough, easy to follow, concise, and includes links to expert-written support material for each step in the process, and why that step is important.

In the end, I think it would save everyone a lot of time, and allow newcomers to get down to business as quickly as possible. Let me know what you think about this...I'm not a software-writer, but I'm creative and have the knowledge to put it all together with the help of your's and other's expertise.

Just an idea! =O)

-Mike