WAH help please

[pearlharbr]

Should I try to talk about the R, or totally drop the rope by saying that I need space while I deal with my mother?

Definitely the latter. You will have a lot going on with your mother, too much to deal with this also.

I'm going to take the liberty of quoting my friend Puppy:

"Puppy's Short Version, All-Inclusive Advice" for Waylayed Spouses Who Just Got Bombed"


1. Get proof (of whether or not there's OM/OW). Hint: There almost always is.


2. Do either:


2a. Aggressive affair-busting (see Allen A's posts over in Infidelity)

Allen A's Posts

; or


2b. "Set Them Free" (Robx/Gucci approach)

"Setting Them Free"


Those are the only two things I've seen work. If #1 turns up nothing, then proceed to #2b. And in the meantime, GAL your ass off, and become the better option. Best case, you'll attract them back, and at a minimum you'll become a better person that will be more attractive to SOMEBODY in your next relationship.

P.S. I used both but 2b did the trick.