Oxy, Finally someone who has not spoken with their spouse in months. I found out from my W's sister that their parents get overly upset when their daughters hurt. So my W and her sister have learned over time to internalize all negative emotions so they would not upset their parents. I am sure that my W's parent do not know that we are seperated and it has been 2 months.
With no kids there is definetly difficulty trying to find a method for communication. That is why I am not offering to tell her to forward her mail. this is my only opening at this time.
I have not brought up any R or M talks with my W and I suggest that you do the same. I am following Coach's advice and keeping a little mystery about myself and only bring up neutral topics or subjects relative to your H. I feel for you. There are time I just want to say "hey why aren't to talking to me", but I know this is what she is waiting for (the old me).
