Here's a story...of a very sad lady

[Dagny-2]

H asked me the other day (I ignored the question) about why I can't sleep. I want to write a "letting go" type letter (I'm still not ready to do the full-blown expose the OW to the world), but I will be gone for 10 days and H will have the kids and I would like to not talk to him at all during that time. This is the email I want to send. Is this firm and clear? Is it a good idea? Or am I completely missing the boat?

I cannot sleep because my husband is having an affair. I cannot sleep because a friendship I treasured most in my life is now over. I cannot sleep because the enormity of the decisions I need to make and the impact it will have on my life, the boys’ life and even your life are huge and will impact the rest of our lives. I take the vows I made seriously, they were for better or worse, and this is surely the worse. I wish to demonstrate to our children what ones does when things are tough, that you work to fix them. I agreed to the separation because our living together was intolerable, three people do not belong in a marriage. I wish to someday begin the difficult process of reconciliation, but cannot do that until you end your affair. I hope that is before my love for you dies. I want to know that I have done everything I could to provide a loving and stable family for our children. I must also protect myself emotionally, and the children, as much as I can from the turmoil in our lives. This is what keeps me up at night, since you asked.