I feel for you Hurt. Since we also have no children, there is very little contact between H and I. It almost makes it more difficult I think. My H didn't like to "fight", so he never told me what was bothering him, and he is even less inclined to discuss R now. Even though we are still living in the same house 4-5 days a week, we talk about very little. After 6 weeks of no R talks I am about to tear my hair out for just a crumb of information about what he's thinking.
M 45 H 44 no kids-one great dog M 15 yr in Oct T 18 yr Bomb 6/10 "I can't be your husband any more"