At the time of the A my wife was in an Accelerated nursing program and spending 110% of her time with her studies. I was traveling 65% of the time on business. We sort of had our seperate lives, but no M problems. My W is quite a bit younger than me and my friends would say that she would leave me when she graduated....not knowing us as a couple or our R, but by the fact of the age difference. This did start to affect me so I started looking and met someone on my business trips and had an EA.
I agree that the last year maybe a year an a half it was not healthy and I know that is why she left. But as Coach said and I have read on many posts that this is a gift. What I am reading is that I have to take of myself and love myself before I can freely love others. I had low self-esteem, which is the root cause of many of my behaviors (jealousy, control, the need to seek affection from the OW). So I am working both physically (joined a gym), mentally by working with an IC and GAL.
