WAW left on Independence Day and not communicating

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You take for granted what you have until you have lost it.

You are also learning that you were getting all worked up over things not within your control and letting it affect your family life.

Boundaries? Is it alright to cheat? Integrity?

I don't know what all you are learning. But it's more than just the old "you don't know what you had until it's gone", I expect.

Your M was not healthy. That's why your wife left: to try to save herself, to enforce some real boundaries. You were angry, you cheated, so you weren't happy either, right?