hIh, don't make this hard. If a colleague made the same request how would you respond?
" ok, I'll leave it ------ in the morning on my way out the door."
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
You both recommend that I stay dark? I apologized to her earlier this week and let her go as well. I thought I would put the mail in the box and send her a quick email in the AM saying "W mail is in the box." Or say nothing at all.
Coach seems to think that I should not go dark since communication is a premium, but get rid of the negative feelings and work on becoming friends, which would mean I would write the quick email and put the mail in the box.
I feel like I am walking in a minefield. I think going dark worked a few weeks ago when I also semi let her go....but the reconcilation stages seem to make since as well.
Coach is always right in my book.
But since she wants her mail and asked you to leave it in the mailbox, I would communicate back to tell her that if that is what she wants she should make arrangements to forward it to wherever she is living now.
She is not going to see you "not watching the news".
I still like it though. If it bleeds it leads. Keep you all worked up.
Not to mention, it's an election year, so the puffed up, sanctimonious demagogues are probably climbing out of the woodwork to rattle everybody's cages and get them all worked up, angry, aggitated, and fearful.
Bet not watching the news helps him
I agree. Especially when you are trying to save your R.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
I was a Fox and CNN news junky and my W use to watch it with me. However, one of her issues with me was that I would get angry too much. I realized that she was right so one of my 180's was to find other avenues for entertainment that would not get my blood boiling.
You are right in that she will not see that. However, all of my coorespondence with her via email has been positive. I have not brought up R or M and really the only push that I gave her was an open invite to have a coffoe or coke at a local resturaunt.
Although, I am going crazy with her silence I am attempting to show patience and understanding. Even the open invite I stated that I realize that she may not be ready to meet so it was an open invitation.
In regard to the mail. I will put it in the box and send her a very short email stating that. I will probably not put the forwarding sheet in there because this is my only opening to show that I care at this time.
I plan to send her a quick email in the AM telling her the mail is in the box. I will probably not send the mail forwarding card because this is my only opening other her b-day next week. I will send her a simple card and an inexpensive gift that has meaning to her. Following the reconcilation phases.
I don't know if I can explain it, but for me... once I got over the whole being dumped thing and figured out just how unhealthy my M was, and once I started to feel better and learn more about myself, I was kind of glad what happened did happen.
Then I discovered something else: my STBXW is really a very amazing woman. I mean that. I find her intriguing, and I am glad we've had this opportunity to grow. I am happier now than I have been in a very, very long time. Maybe happier than ever.
And that's with D-day in 11 days
I agree with Coach. Why be nasty and rude?
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M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
I was a Fox and CNN news junky and my W use to watch it with me.
First mistake - take a position and stick with it (just kidding )
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In regard to the mail. I will put it in the box and send her a very short email stating that. I will probably not put the forwarding sheet in there because this is my only opening to show that I care at this time.
Listen to Coach on that one. Just don't be lurking around the mailbox when she comes.
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