It was regarding scuba diving. I am going to get certified before we would be going there (H is certified, also he knows that I'm going to). We were talking about the particular site there and he mentioned that it is possible to snorkel there too. I said that I thought that snorkeling was only possible very near the surface but really I don't know the difference between the two. And then he came back with the "Wow you want to go scuba and you don't know the difference between them??".
Which I can't see how it would matter because I wouldn't be able to do it without certification and obviously I'd learn all the necessary stuff there... I just found his reply very condescending.
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It was regarding scuba diving. I am going to get certified before we would be going there (H is certified, also he knows that I'm going to). We were talking about the particular site there and he mentioned that it is possible to snorkel there too. I said that I thought that snorkeling was only possible very near the surface but really I don't know the difference between the two. And then he came back with the "Wow you want to go scuba and you don't know the difference between them??".
Which I can't see how it would matter because I wouldn't be able to do it without certification and obviously I'd learn all the necessary stuff there... I just found his reply very condescending.
That is just so immature.
For years I have sworn to myself that I would keep a recorder in my pocket to tape conversations like that and e-mail them out later so "they" can hear first hand how stupid that kind of talk is. I have never done it and right now my sitch is beyond that.
Yeah, and it's kinda too stupid to argue about. But also to stupid to hold a grudge over, ykwim? So I'm just sitting there going "Seriously?".
Why not say: "H, we were having fun picking our next vacation spot for us. You are an expert with the activities like that, I am not. I don't think it is necessary to talk to me in this fashion. Do you want to continue to study the trip?"
That sounds good pookie. I have to practice calming down first and then trying to look at the situation coolly.
I just feel like the recent fights are just scratching the surface and we're arguing on something that was on hand but because the subjects are so off the wall, I feel like there's something deeper going on, but we're avoiding the real issue. Maybe I'm mind reading.
Accept that there is only one thing you can change in life and that is you
That sounds good pookie. I have to practice calming down first and then trying to look at the situation coolly.
I just feel like the recent fights are just scratching the surface and we're arguing on something that was on hand but because the subjects are so off the wall, I feel like there's something deeper going on, but we're avoiding the real issue. Maybe I'm mind reading.
I am no expert here about saving my R but I have learned over the years how to listen and respond without further fueling the situation.
Is there a particular topic that does not start an argument?
Is there a particular topic that does not start an argument?
That does NOT start an argument? Well we go through various topics and nothing happens, it just seems to be rather random. Or I'm just not catching on...
Accept that there is only one thing you can change in life and that is you
"Wow you want to go scuba and you don't know the difference between them??".
Yeah, that's a bit of a put down. Wonder where that came from?
Is he insecure? Arrogant? Low blood sugar? Dog chew up his shoes? Not enough alone time?
I would answer, "Yep, I want to go scuba diving, and I don't know much about it or snorkeling. That's the point.".
That would be true in my case: I want to go scuba diving some day, and I don't know a danged thing about it, but I know I had better hire somebody who does and get certified before I go off on my own
I want to go to China and India too Don't know much other than what I've read about them either.
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That is just so immature. 