Hurtinhartford, I'm surprised your counsellor can tell you about what your wife says to her/him during an individual session, but maybe that's the way it's done.If it's true, it should give you hope, shouldn't it? Hope is double-edged, though. I so much want to hope, in my situation, and my H's family all tell me to stick it out, give him time, etc.But he doesn't see them much or confide, that I know. Maybe they're just saying "hope" to calm me down and feel better themselves.
From what I've been reading here, it would seem that when you let go, you forego contact. But I understand a birthday's different. I don't contact my H unless child-related. But I won't let his birthday go by without at least a text. Hope he'll be on the way home by then - it's in February. NotCrackingUp
Me: 46 H:42 Together for 18 yrs, married 14. 3 children: 2 girls 13 and 10, one boy 7. Husband had affair, ended it and then decided on separation. Separated 08/2010
