I really like this conversation. I'd like to contribute my perception of how these concepts fit together based on all the excellent advice I've received here from Puppy, Allen, and others. Again these are not my ideas, but just how I've framed them in my mind.

If anyone has any comments, corrections, concerns, etc...Have at it! I'm doing my best to continue learning!

I illustrated this as a generic case of marital infidelity based on what seems to be a very common series of events for a lot of stories here.

As you'll notice...I like illustrations...they work well with my simple mind LOL!

M: 29, W: 28
Together 8 years, Married 1 (5/16/09)
Bomb (LYBNILWY)4/22/10
Affair discovered 5/3/10, began Jan/Feb 2010
Separated 5/22/10 - Present
Affair exposed 7/7/10
No children