Hi Kalni, what steps did you take that you feel helped to lead to a R?
I wish it was easy to explain. My loyal friends here could probably tell you more about what happened with us because I am not sure I can be specific now.
I fell apart, I picked myself up, I was very hopeful the first few months while he was crazy in love with her(he never admitted to me and I was naive enough to downplay the possibility of an A in my head), I felt stronger, lived better, started sepating my life from him, my dad got cancer and that affected me, I decided I wanted a divorce, pushed for it, he stalled, objected and then I fell in love. The minute I REALLY let go of him, he moved towards me and in a month he said he wanted back.
Timing helped. His affair had lost its appeal just as the book say, after the first 6 months they weere free to be with each other and she started pressuring him...
I guess I was lucky? Time will tell. This is aint over yet.
