Sol - I can't imagine how painful the green card experience was. IMO your H should be sent soaking wet to the electric chair for that stunt. I know you don't want to think about it but it does really give you tangible evidence your H can't be trusted. Untrustworthy people tend to gravitate to untrustworthy attnys when choosing counsel.
Honestly, your attny sounds like a flake and pretty soft given the circumstances but then again I don't know the laws that govern your state so perhaps that is an unfair assessment.
No matter what state you are in (general you) I would urge anybody to really educate themselves to some degree on the individual state laws that govern them. Relying on an attny is fine but IMO the entire process will be "easier" if you are aware of all the ins and outs.
