At the risk of sounding like Larry Tate, I agree with both Coach and McQueen on this one.
And here's the distinction I would make:
You SHOULD, ultimately and eventually, end up being friends with your ex-spouse, for the purposes of good co-parenting.
You just don't TELL them that you will be, IF you are still DBing. At least if you're doing "2a." If you're doing "2b," then I think Gucci says yeah, you do.
Different approaches. But basically, I believe what Coach is advocating here is a TACTIC -- implementing the FEAR OF LOSS into the equation of the wayward's mind. And loss of the "best friendship" of their LBS is a WAY underrated concept, in my opinion. It's powerful stuff.
