"I always thought we would be friends and now you don't even want that. I can't understand how you go to always returning my calls to not talking to me at all, even when I call you. It just makes me really sad to lose you as a friend."
What does that say?
emotional blackmail
She needs to understand you won't be friends when you divorce.
not true. you always remain friends with your ex spouse. for juniors sake.
you might even find you are better friends than lovers.
if you can't get it together, maybe the courts will require some parenting classes or award full custody to the mother till dad can get his anger issues resolved. but you shouldn't let that happen. there is no reason a child needs to grow up in the battle zone between two adults. amicable separations are were its at.
and if for no other reason you remain friends so at least they will let you slide a month or two on support payments when work is slow or the bills start piling up. always remain friends with your ex spouse.
What the above ridiculous conversation says to me is, I am right. When you get dumped or your spouse moves out take a month or two, maybe three To Move On.
Don't talk to them, or about them. Think about yourself and where you are going with your life rather then about them and the confused, argumentative, stabbed in the back history you had with them.
In the least it will help you to regain focus and control over your life, REALIZING that ridiculous statements like the above are not as confusing or meaningful as you make them out to be, and,
realize that ridiculous statements like the above would not have occurred if you were too busy to entertain them.
why are you so unhappy? because you are holding onto an unhappy past instead of looking towards a future of endless possibilities.
and especially for you John28, especially for a lot of men on this site, since you suffer from this,
once you regain focus and control, you will look at the whole picture, rather than focus on details and conversations.
if you try to analyze why one morning she says I love you but at night she hates you then in the morning she still hates you but at nights shes saying I love you. You wasted 48 hours of your life. There is nothing to gather from that other than she is confused and just confused you.
