New Beginning

[cat04]

Miss,

Where to start?

Let's take Cat's example above about her "interests" in what are traditionally "male" interests. She has friendships with men because of shared interests, she may or may not prefer to relate to men how they are accustomed to relating to each other.

Yes interests. Isn't that why we interact with people? A common bond of sorts?

Not because we necessarily like a particular communication style.

For me, communication style is why I become friends with a specific person, not a gender of people.

However, because my interests are generally more the things a man IS interested in, it puts me into a place of either interacting with men in "their" style, or doing these things all alone. And I have to accept the judgement that does come my way because of that.

Does that mean that I talk to them about my Brazillian wax, what I think about, oh let's say Halie Barry's breasts, the hot guy that just walked across the street, my vibrator or anything like that.?

Nope. Those are things that gets discussed with one man and one man only. If I need to say them to anyone else, I say them to women.

I am not suggesting a change because of an intimate relationship but an understanding of oneself and an understanding from your partner on how you prefer to relate to another person.

However, I will not pass "judgement" on someone who has those relationships because they "need" or "prefer" to relate in that manner.

So it is ok for Mach or Jack to talk in a "man" way with your W? It doesn't bother you at all? Doesn't make you feel just a bit small? Especially if she is welcoming and responsive of it?

So why do I like men? Honestly, how many women do you know that can carry on a conversation about the engine of a car, the actual technicalities of a sport, fishing, hunting, etc? Those are MY interests.

So ... what's the deal then? I like men. You guys are alright. I like the banter. I enjoy the fun. And more than ever, I like women too (no Grit ... not like that ... I'm not wearing the shirt!) ... as long as they are the kind that don't like drama and can relax and have some fun.

I would like to see PEI's reasons for liking men, to be much more like mine...