LO, You know what to do in your sitch you just won't do it. The lack of boundaries has enabled your H to behave like he has. He sounds depressed and has other issues. These are his problems, I would bet he is aware he is not emotionally healthy. He doesn't need to change because inertia is less threatening than him looking inward. His plan is to be alone that way he is only hurting himself and not his family (not gonna work but he's thinking it.) He can't love you because he doesn't love himself, he loathes you for putting up with him, he's trying to push you away - again. See he didn't do the work the first time. He thinks he will be better off by himself, it lessens his pain.
You are the tile floor. He's passive-aggressive, it's how he feels in control. It's not healthy or good for your family. He is searching for relief because he's hurting. I bet he has alot of FOO issues. You can wait like you have been on the tile floor or you can let him go to find himself and for you to heal.
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He still calls me "mom".
Does he like his mother?
How does that make you feel when he calls you "mom"?
Someone in your marriage needs to break the cycle and change the dynamic. IDK if your M is fixable, I can imagine how it must be hard for you to live like you have, your son is watching both of you. Show him what healthy living and loving is all about.
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
