My H and IC believe that because I'm still have an 'escape plan' it means I have no hope.
If that's what you IC thinks, he/she has no understanding. The escape plan functions as a stress reliever. When facing the problems in the relationship, considering the alternatives relieves the stress.
I swear without you guys I wouldn't be able to explain myself. I can never find the words on my own but that is exactly what I feel about my 'plan'. It doesn't mean I'm done, it just means I'm scared.
If that's the advice your IC is giving you, in my opinion it's complete BS.
You have a problem. You think you have two solutions. Just because you have two solutions doesn't mean one of those solutions isn't viable.
That's complete crap in my mind.
----"Et tu, Brute?"---- me:28 W:24 S4 T:6 M:4 EA Exposed: 5/21/10 Bomb: 6/20/10 (Father's Day) NC w/ OM: 7/10/10 W moved out 8/21/10 http://bit.ly/aOrZne - My sitch
