You are right. There is no OW/OM, just some emo abuse and lost of distrust. I, too, started working on myself and found the strength to finally stand up and say this wasn't right. But the problem is I don't know how to fix anything and since it was my problem I should find the solution. Now things have snowballed and I don't know what to do/say? I feel like I'm losing all my choices. You'd have to read my thread on NC'ers to see exactly how chaotic it's become. (if your interested... my story )
Anyway, I do feel so hopeless and cruel. I don't know what to do anymore. And everyone is suffering because of it.
"I feel like Rocky in the fifteenth round, beaten beyond recognition, when I realize, the only person I've been fighting for is...myself."