I just posted this on another thread, but thought I'd re-post it here. It's something I've been needing to say for awhile now, but it just came out today on this other thread.
As long as we're being honest: (and this is for everyone else here on the boards, not just you, ________ )
And I don't have time (nor the inclination, nor am I particularly GOOD at) hand-holding, nose-wiping, advising for the 43rd time on the same items, etc., etc. In fact, I refuse to do it anymore (hence you see a lot more copy-and-paste from my own personal archives now). Between my job and my homelife, and the activities I choose to fill my life with (coaching my son, golfing with my other son, spending time with my wife, daughters and granddaughter) -- my "pebbles in my jar," so to speak -- I choose to spend what time I DO spend on this forum, sharing my advise and experience with those who will apply it.
Whether the lack of applying it is due to fear, stubbornness, lack of self-discpline or something else, I don't particularly care -- it's going to be your problem, not mine. I will invest my time on those few threads where people will do the hard work necessary to try and save their marriages, who will get their emotions in check, face their fears, and lack only the specific KNOWLEDGE -- which is where the rest of us vets can help.
End of lecture. Not even really a "lecture" as much as a courtesy "heads up."
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
This is like sports. To be successfull, you have to condition and practice and work your a$$ off. You have to make goals, both large and small and then work to achieve them. At first, everybody plays. It has to be that way for them to learn the game.
But as the players age, less and less get significant playing time and eventually either quit or don't make the team.
The coach can only do so much. He can teach tecnique and come up with plays and assignments, but he can't take the field. the players have to accept the coaching and go execute. AND they have to give full effort.
I've played with and coached many fine athletes who for whatever reason didn't always go all out. It was a shame for them to be so gifted, yet ride the pines behind someone who was not as gifted in body, but who would not be out-worked. They call it "having heart".
I'd take one Wes Welker or Rudy over a whole team of Terell Owens' and Holywood Hendersons. Those guys just want it more.
Pup, I don't think anyone could say anything negative about you taking this approach. I mean, you did your time in the grinder and stayed around to help others. Total strangers at that. You've paid it forward in full many times over, and I know that I'm not alone in feeling very thankfull to you for your help.
Now I just hope I make the cut:)
Seriously, at least I know that if not, it'll be my own inability to execute that buys me my spot on the bench. It's almost never the coach's fault a kid doesn't work hard or screws up his assignments.
ADAPT. OVERCOME. IMPROVISE. -Tom Highway
Me: 43 W: 40 S12 & S9 Married 17yrs Together 20yrs
Puppy your insight is great and I like your no BS approach. You should write a book it would be great. You did your time and then some enjoy your life. Even your cut and paste post help newcomers like me.
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Puppy's going dark on some folks. Watch out he might become the WAVDB.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
