I'm not very knowledgable on the legal side of things, so I don't know the answer to this, but couldn't you just file the D on her? If she and her L want to drag their feet on their suit, fine. I don't think they could do the same in response to yours.
Good luck man.
I have filed for divorce also. The wheels just turn incredibly slow.
M40, W 37 M 11 1/2 y T 13 y D filed 5-18-10 S 5-29-10 OM1 discovered 6-5-10 Counter sued for d 6-16-10 OM2 discovered 8-10-10 OM3, OM4 4 kids 10, 7, & 3 D date 10-14-10 http://tiny.cc/mxzct
