I just posted this on another thread, but thought I'd re-post it here. It's something I've been needing to say for awhile now, but it just came out today on this other thread.
As long as we're being honest: (and this is for everyone else here on the boards, not just you, ________ )
And I don't have time (nor the inclination, nor am I particularly GOOD at) hand-holding, nose-wiping, advising for the 43rd time on the same items, etc., etc. In fact, I refuse to do it anymore (hence you see a lot more copy-and-paste from my own personal archives now). Between my job and my homelife, and the activities I choose to fill my life with (coaching my son, golfing with my other son, spending time with my wife, daughters and granddaughter) -- my "pebbles in my jar," so to speak -- I choose to spend what time I DO spend on this forum, sharing my advise and experience with those who will apply it.
Whether the lack of applying it is due to fear, stubbornness, lack of self-discpline or something else, I don't particularly care -- it's going to be your problem, not mine. I will invest my time on those few threads where people will do the hard work necessary to try and save their marriages, who will get their emotions in check, face their fears, and lack only the specific KNOWLEDGE -- which is where the rest of us vets can help.
End of lecture. Not even really a "lecture" as much as a courtesy "heads up."
