MLC spouse projecting their negativity onto the BS

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You very obviously do not believe in MLC

I don't think labels, in general, do us a lot of good when we try to understand why somebody is in crisis, why their perspective is what it is, and so on.

I know that people go through this in middle age. They go through it at other ages too. Hence, it's not nearly as relevant, in my opinion, as accepting what is happening and understanding the crisis both partners are facing.

do you 'believe' in Depression?

Of course I believe in depression.

Do you 'believe' that someone suffering from depression clearly sees their environment?

At the risk of sounding sophmoric, I question anybody who claims to 'clearly' see their environment.

A better question is do I think their perspective is productive or making them happy?

I think depressed people are telling the truth when they say they don't feel productive and don't feel happy.

They feel depressed. Who am I to question their feelings?