Where does the WAW go

[DanF]

BUT he also wanted to kiss and cuddle and things like that. I'm not there.

I can't seem to get him to understand that I need to work on my negativity and insecurities before I can get there. He feels like the physical will make things better and it's just not for me. But how do I let him know this without him thinking I'm not trying?

I really feel like this is our biggest problem right now and I just don't know how to deal with it, he is just really physical and I'm NOT.

A spirit of patience while you work on it will help you.

Greek [/quote]

This may be a big part of what killed my chance at reconciling with my W. That and her EA with OM. We had always been very physical and to just get shut down was very difficult for me. Especially at first. I kept pushing and she kept backing away. I couldn't stop pursuing until it was too late.