would this not push him away? that's like talking about the r. if he's still pissed, me wanting to work on the r while he's ready to make a run for it .. it won't work.
Talking about the R in a reflective way is not pursuing. If you got together with an old boyfriend, you would talk this way--doesn't mean you want anything from it--you just talk about how you did things you wish you hadn't, etc.
Shows them what an insightful, mature person you have grown to be. You will lead them to reflect "maturely" themselves.
No, you aren't going to pursue at all. It's still a no no.lol.
