It really is tough, isn't it CTH. My wife still has pictures of us as a family hanging in her home. I have none of her in mine and the kids have never asked. I too would allow D to talk about her mother's activities without brushing them off. For example, what does your D find "cool" about Mom's biker jacket? Does D see herself as being a biker one day? (I know, I know...you'd hate it)Inquire more about how the info is being interpreted by the kids to find out more about how their little minds are working rather than seeing it as a "report" on STBX's activities. It's a learning tool. It's one you wish you didn't have to utilize but what is is! My guess is that if you show interest and a willingness to comment, the frequency of these discussions will drop off. This is a huge adjustment for the kids too and sadly they had absolutely no say in what happened to their family. Anyway, just my thoughts.
