I've had a bad year where a lot of things are concerned! When your weak and fatigued and have to handle issue after issue it's a bit overwhelming but I'm still standing! I had an issue with D13 last night. She's been talking about going to the CNE with a girlfriend for the past week. I was told that today they were going, fine. So, last night at 9:00 pm, after I return from bible study, D wants to go to the bank and get some money, OK. I ask her about the tickets and she says "Mom has them" so I said "why don't we go over to Mom's and get them" I tell D to phone mom, which she does. Mom has no tickets as D did not tell her that she needed any. So I inquire further as to what the arrangements are as far as pick up, how long they'll be there and D says "I don't know" Now, I've had a long day and it's now 9:30 apm and my kid is supposed to be going with a friend and her parent but has no idea about any of the arrnagements, where her ticket will come from etc. all she knows is it is tomorrow. Well, I lost it. Finally, I got the number from D and phoned the mother myself, "Oh, we're leaving at 5:00 pm and I can't pick your D up, didn't my D tell her that?" So much for that. D13 was quite upset and crying and I was a bit pissed that these arrangements were so haphazard and communication so poor. Couldn't this information have been passed on earlier in the week rather than leaving my kid hanging! Apparently, my D had been phoning during the week, as we told her to, and got no replies. I hate to see her get hurt because of something she had little control over. She just assumed , in child like trust, that her friend would come through as she said she would...and didn't. Somehow for me trust violations are a sore spot! So later I suggested that I pay for D13 and D16 to go to a movie together today as a special treat. They both got excited about picking the movie, finding out how to get to the theatre by bus and visiting the pet store in that plaza. I took D13 aside and apologized for being so angry at her because most of the issue was around something she couldn't control. We hugged, said "I love you" and that was that. So, D13 will have a good day with her sister. Yesterday they took the bus to the shopping mall and did some back to school clothing shopping together. It's so nice to see how much they enjoy each others complany even though there is a three year difference. Last night they called me at bible study and asked if they could go to a park together and would be home by 8:00 pm. It always makes my heart glow when I see and hear them getting along so well.
