[quote/]And you do it thru SELF-DISCIPLINE. Simply put, Courts, you CANNOT continue to be reactive and emotional, and have any hope of saving your marriage (much less your own emotional health). You need to DB with your HEAD, and not your EMOTIONS. [/quote]
COURTS - what Puppy is telling you here is some powerful advice. I haven't been in this group for long. But I can tell you, it WORKS. It hasn't worked for my Marriage and WAW yet, but it has worked for ME at this point.
I understand what your emotions are doing to you right now, they are strong. But you can't let them control you...you need to be mindful of them. I tried a meditation class last Monday, for my first time. Not something I would have ever considered before - but that is what a 180 is all about. I am glad I went, and will be going back. I have learned how to calm myself, to focus...and to be mindful of my thoughts and emotions. It really helps.
