If you have read the resources on MLC and you believe your W is MLC then you know
Confusion + depression = MLC
Call it whatever you want-crisis. Emotional Cancer.
What you are acknowledging and understanding is that your spouse is sick. In crisis.
What they feel, say, and do is real to them. What we acknowledge on these boards is that while they are in crisis they are not capable of making healthy decisions.
We acknowledge that the LBS should detach from the consequences of those words and actions and focus on themselves.
To commit to their own personal wellbeing and growth
AND if
the WAS wants to commit to working on the M then it will be up to the LBS whether to engage in that process.
But they will be making that decision from a healthy place.
At first you come here because you want to save your M.
You look for some outcome for yourself.
And because you love your spouse.
At some point the second part -love- comes to the front of your understanding.
This advice IMO applies to whether your spouse is MLC or not.
It is the tougher choice for sure. To endure this tragedy and hardship.
So be sure you know why you are doing it.
Radio I would not focus on your W or her behavior or whether this will snap her out.
It is useless to try to get into anyone's head and figure it out.
Focus on you. If you don't save you, your M will not be saved.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
