# 72 - Could be better, could be worse...

[AliSuddenly]

Hey K, I understand what you are saying and in your case, yes, there was a huge amount of damage done and lies told. Of course, like others say, there is also a lot of history there.. you were young when you met and you have grown together and yes he has hurt you, terribly, but he also came back, which kind of validates that your link was strong enough to get married in the first place?

And he gave you two beautiful children, a family and.. well, its history surely that you would take back a cheating husband and that you loved him then as despite everything, you love him now.

Having been the one who had an A once, I feel love is different to other 'rules' and conducts of behaviour. I believe that until we have 'learnt our lessons' in love, yes we can hurt one another, behave appalingly, treat our lovers how we would never want to be treated ourselves, or would dare to treat a friend.. and yet that love can survive. Or rise again, stronger, like a phoenix from the ashes. And as you say, you have to have strengh of character, self belief, be secure in yourself and be able to forgive and kind of.. not bear a grudge about the past behaviour? Do you think he has learnt his lessons now?

Perhaps he would be more willing to try some IC/MC now that your bond is a bit stronger, if you want to answer some of these questions? He went reluctantly before didnt he.