Thanks for the condolences. Services are tomorrow. I haven't heard from H since Saturday morning. Did hear from MIL because she is freaking out he hasn't contacted her. I texted her OW's phone number and said he hasn't contacted me but is probably in contact with her, she can contact her if she is worried.
In the meantime, I did find apartments that will work for us here and I've identified 2 jobs I am going to apply for tomorrow. I'll keep up the job search. I'm just assuming I'm going to be starting a new life up here in a few months. If H wants to work on things, I'm willing to do that but will be shocked. It's easier to prepare myself for life on my own and be surprised than to be hopeful and let down.
And I got a new haircut today for myself
Me 32 H 32 Ds 3.5 and 1.5 M 5 years, T 14 years EA/Bomb: 7/1/10 PA revealed: 9/14/10 Legally separated: 10/01/10