Puppys Short Version, All-Inclusive Advice for WAS

[Maxfly]

I'm applying both in my case. Upon finding out about the EA, I immediately exposed to her family, a couple of her friends. I even exposed the OM to his military superiors: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...618#Post2057618

I got a hold of some of my W and the OM's emails and forwarded them off to folks. That was 2 months ago. She immediately went quiet, withdrawn, cold, thick wall built up.

I'm more than certain that she is still communicating with the OM. So over week-end, I gave her the Gucci/Dobson ("set them free" letter. As expected she was not too happy about me asking her to leave. She was angery for about 30 minutes, but I opened "the cage door" for her.

Now as Gucci/Dobson would say, the decision is in their hands if they want to leave or not. Instead of planning how to run away, now they are starting to think "do I really want to leave?"

I don't know what tomorrow may hold for my M, but I do know that she is free to do as she wishes. I will firm up on my boundaries setting to keep my sanity.