I read your thread and I am deeply sorry that you are in this sitch. Unfortunately, I am the one that caused my sitch. I had an affair 2 years ago and told my W that I was falling in love with someone else. My W concocted a couple of schemes to get me jealous...it worked and knocked me to my senses and I broke off the R. The problem is I never officially apologized to my W until recently, she internalized the pain for 2 yrs and left me on July 4th.
I would not recommend getting your H jealous, but I would not go out of my way being nice either. I think they call it being your Spouses doormat. I would pull away and discuss only children related issues, schedule days of the week that each will have the children so that you have time to GAL. Maybe that will get your H to think that if he can do it so can you.
My W will not even communicate with me so I am being very ginger in my emails. No R talks other than when I let her go this week and even then all I said was that I wanted her to be happy so I am letting her go. I plan to go semi-dark by following Coach's suggestion. I am not sure where to go from there if she does not initiate communication. I plan to follow the path that a few have been successful at.
