I think you already know where I'm going with this, Tay Tay. You need to WEIGH HEAVILY the fact that your daughter -- right now and for the next few years -- is forming the ideas, values and behaviors about her sexuality and her relationships, that she will carry with her the rest of her adult life as a woman.
What is it you want to model for her?
Please don't answer me here, or now, but THINK HEAVILY on that, and -- if so inclined -- PRAY hard about it.
One other thing. Since you know there is OW, do not sleep with him.
I'll second this, and add " . . . and if you've already done so, unprotected, PLEASE get yourself tested -- now and then six months from now -- with a full-panel STD test" to the discussion.
gr8 day 2B alive, TimeHeals, soleil, and Puppy Dog Tails-I agree with you all about the no sex rule. I was already feeling like that anyway. When he told me that he was going to sleep with the girl at work that sealed the deal. That is why I am so mad at him also. In one day he took away my bestfriend, my confidant, my lover, my sounding board, and my husband. All this he took away in one day because he "wasn't happy.
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Me (32) H (36) Together (12 years) Married (3 years) Children (4 ages 11,9,7,6) Bomb dropped (November 09) Seperated (January 29, 2010)
gr8 day 2B alive, TimeHeals, soleil, and Puppy Dog Tails-I agree with you all about the no sex rule. I was already feeling like that anyway. When he told me that he was going to sleep with the girl at work that sealed the deal.
Honey, that's completely understandable. I can't imagine any woman wanting to sleep with a man (despite it being her husband) after he has told her TO HER FACE that he plans on sleeping with some broad at work and how randy he is feeling.
I know you are feeling down right now but you WILL get through this. (((( Tay ))))
Tay, don't pick him up again. It was his mistake his missed or took the wrong bus, just like it's his mistake what he is doing to your family. I think he is try to still be in control.
me 36 W 33 s-6 s-4 together since 1991 married Dec 2000 9years first affair before we where married. Second affair 1/2007 Gone Nov,2007 Back June 2008. ILYBNILY---i cannot believe you did this 7/22/2010
soleil-By all that my husband is doing I am losing alot of love for him. The stupidness that came out of his mouth last night took even more love away. Maybe that is how it has to be for me to let him go. Thank you for the encouragement.
didthehurt-I won't be picking him up again. To be honest I only did it because I had not talked to him in 6 days and I missed him. He is still definitely trying to control me. He is on a road to distruction and he doesn't even see it.
Me (32) H (36) Together (12 years) Married (3 years) Children (4 ages 11,9,7,6) Bomb dropped (November 09) Seperated (January 29, 2010)
Tay, I definitely agree that it seems like he's still trying to control you, in small ways. I can't believe he actually told you that he was thinking about sleeping with this chick at work. Sometimes when someone is just oozing stupidity you have to leave them to drown in it.
Me: 24 H: 26 2 SS: 7 & 5; D: 3 H filed D papers: 8/2/10 OW discovered: 08/10 D papers counter-filed: 10/2/10 There is no method to my madness
Tay, I definitely agree that it seems like he's still trying to control you, in small ways. I can't believe he actually told you that he was thinking about sleeping with this chick at work. Sometimes when someone is just oozing stupidity you have to leave them to drown in it.
I think that he is trying to control me as well. What makes you think that though? Is it because he is telling me about the other women? I just wanted to know why do you think he is trying to control me. I forgot to write yesterday as well. My husband said "I understand that you want me to come home so how would you feel if I came home and still slept with other women". I said you know that I would not stand for that.
Me (32) H (36) Together (12 years) Married (3 years) Children (4 ages 11,9,7,6) Bomb dropped (November 09) Seperated (January 29, 2010)
