# 72 - Could be better, could be worse...

[awest1217]

K - I don't think for you it is just that H had an A. I truly believe that if a spouse has an A that it is possible to reconcile, but what I feel is hard about your situation (and what I admire most about you for reconciling) is that he did come home and did "reconcile" for a while just to find out he was still with her. To me, that is what is hardest to get over. Having an A, is hard enough to get over, but I really think the fact that you did trust him and he flat out hurt that trust is the hard part.

I completely believe that it is possible for you to have a great marriage and agree you have to build a new foundation and not just try to fix the old, but it is going to take a long time because there is so much more to this than just an A (like I said which is hard enough), but to have the trust rebuilt when you tried before just to have it thrown back at you that is the hardest part.

You are really an inspiration for continuing to work it out and stick with it. You could have said forget it to him when he wanted to work things out, but you decided to take him back, and that in itself is something to honor.