WAW left on Independence Day and not communicating

[NotCrackingUp]

The good news is that I can only go upwards from here; I'm definitely at the "get rid of negative feelings " stage. After very unexpectedly admitting to an affair, yet wanting to stay and surmount it together (March last), my husband was more loving than before for 2 months, then told me (start of May) he didn't love me anymore, couldn't live with me,the works. He lived in the spare room and got increasingly cold, angry, hard and nasty until he moved into a flat of his own, just a week ago.I made the usual begging etc. mistakes at first, mostly out of shock (I'd seen nothing coming). Then read DR and applied like mad. But he got colder, more disdainful and contemptuous as time went on.Full of anger, although he's the one who cheated. I 'm no more perfect than anyone, I know we got into this mess as a couple, but even now that he's away in his batchelor pad, he seems to blame me for the whole situation. The more light, friendly and helpful I try to be, the more unpleasant and defensive he gets.So how to get rid of these negative feelings when they're mostly his? I can't play games - we've 3 young children who need their Dad and he needs them. I try to tell them Dad's going through a bad patch and he still loves them, but he's different with them too. If I hadn't had any children, I'd have cut off all contact to preserve my own feelings. I don't phone or text unless child-related emergency, and try to be rara around the house if he comes over.Any concrete strategic suggestions to help him stop resenting me and making me feel small?He used to be my closest friend, there's nothing but dislike in his eyes now.
NotCrackingUp