Puppys Short Version, All-Inclusive Advice for WAS

[Dagny-2]

I love lively debates and I will go read the Bo Peep thread.

Last time my H did not have a PA. Of course, I could be naive about that, but I truly believe he had an EA with a married woman and their crossing the line was through phone conversations/conversations at work. Believe me, if we would even reconcile, this will all be addressed before we could move on.

Yes, last time I tried the "nice" approach, he stuck around for about 9 months until he moved out and then things started to move along. But it did work last time, that was 7 years ago and until I left him alone for 1 year living on his own and he got lonely, the M was working (of course, I thought it was working after he started the A, so I might not be the best judge of this).

So how does the "letting them go" approach differ from the simply being civil and not initiate contact or prolonging contact method?